When children do not master a new skill, because their parents or teachers are reluctant to point out ways that can help them perfect it, they do not develop the self-respect that results from mastery. In addition, children are likely to interpret a lack of criticism as a lack of confidence in their abilities. They may believe: “If she thought I was capable of learning this, she would help me to learn how to do it better.” The subtle message they receive is that they “can’t.”
Building Children’s Self-Esteem (Child Psychology) (Kindle Locations 135-139). William Gladden Press. Kindle Edition.