Youth and Emotions
Teenagers can learn to develop and improve their emotional intelligence. At The Edge Life Skills provide a range of courses in the below areas.
Help Encourage teens to talk about their feelings. The act of describing emotions helps teens focus on how they are feeling and develop an improved awareness of what is happening for them emotionally. Build a language between you and your teen, which involves describing your feelings out loud; teaching them they can have two feelings at the same time.
Promote the use of “I statements” within the others. Instead of accusing or labeling other people, model and promote language that take ownership of personal feelings. Try using expressions like “I get really frustrated when she..” . instead of “She is always mean to me.”
Teach emotional competency through personal stories, current events, discussions of movies or web sites. Recognize and discuss the types of emotional behaviors from these media.
Teach our youth how to shake off a bad mood. Promoting and modelling basic anger management and conflict resolution skills will help prevent youth from becoming victims of their negative feelings.
Teach our youth that anger is a normal part of life; it is okay to be angry; but it is important not to make things worse when expressing or dealing with anger. Create norms in your house such as having ‘cool off’ or ‘timeouts’ is okay if people feel their anger getting on top of them and they are worried about saying or doing something unhelpful.
Self-motivation is the internal drive to pursue and achieve goals. Youth will be motivated from within when they believe they are able to succeed and achieve goals that are attainable.
Parents can nurture their teen’s inner drive by focusing on their teenager’s strengths and interests and actively encouraging them when they show enthusiasm for a particular subject or pursuit.
Teaching youth to set attainable goals is also important. Often teenagers need help in taking big challenges and breaking them up into smaller achievable tasks. Get your teen to focus on the most immediate aspect of the challenge or task and work their way through a problem one step at a time.
Promote optimism with your teenager. Encourage them to think of opportunities and creative ways to solve problems. This is especially important when they are confronted with setbacks or disappointments. Helping teens focus on positive ways forward instead of the negatives of the past can make a big difference in how they tackle the challenges of life.
Nurturing empathy in our teenagers provides an important foundation for forming and maintaining strong inter personal relationships.
The most obvious way we can teach empathy is to demonstrate it the way they relate with their piers. As a parent try putting yourself in your teenager’s shoes before responding to whatever it is they have said or done. The capacity to see a situation from your teen’s perspective not only models empathy; it also is the secret to responding effectively to many aspects of teenage behavior.
Make the most of opportunities to get your teen to think about how someone else might be thinking or feeling when situations arise at home or at school.
Management of relationships
Positive social relationships are an integral part of succeeding in all walks of life. The most fundamental way teens learn about managing relationships is in the context of the family. Even as your kids become teenagers and get older try to create and maintain regular family time when everyone is together to relax and enjoy each other’s company.
Having good impulse control has been shown to be a key ingredient in a teenager’s ability to manage personal relationships. Helping your teen to learn the difference between feelings and actions is the key. When teens learn that they are not victims of their feelings, but can choose how to act or express their emotions, they are able to nurture their personal relationships more successfully.